Now I know that intimacy does not have to mean enmeshment,
Or obsession, or fixation,
Or abandoning yourself.
This is my life,
And that is theirs, and we are here together,
But I don’t live for them, and I don’t control what lessons they’re here to learn,
Or how they are here to grow.
Stop interfering with natural consequences—
Let things crumble.
I know I’ve changed, because I don’t always expect the ends of days to feel bad,
And now I trust,
That the way others’ feel about my choices
Really doesn’t have anything to do with me.
It isn’t personal, it’s energetic.
Everything I’m able to know is available to me in this moment:
Not now is a no,
I don’t know yet is a no,
If I don’t know, it will come,
Or, it won’t.
Feelings come and go, they move; that’s how it just is.
Validation is only helpful to the extent that it allows you to feel what is here,
And to let go,
No need to overindulge.
I can dream of the future, and love and grieve the past;
But actually, I’m just here right now,
Breathing by the window,
And watching it all pass,
Because it does all pass.
What if it’s more simple than the mind makes it out to be?
May we walk the line between intention and attention;
Life knows more than we do.
Attaching to outcomes ruins the fun,
And it’s fun to be kind of surprised.
Is there a way to allow all the love in while remaining yourself?
I know there is, now, I really do.
You actually can trust yourself, and you do,
You’ve actually been trusting all along.
Consistently uncertain;
Clarity has its own timeline,
And clarity can be relied upon.
Feel for it. Wait for it.
No, no, no, yes, there it is.
Maggie Miller—a realist and a dreamer; constantly in pursuit of a more honest and free life. She loves to feel and write about it, and her weekly newsletter, Actual Honesty, is for people interested in living as themselves, in the name of love.